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  1. Changing Our Habitual Approach to Change

    Changing Our Habitual Approach to Change

    Bob Wentworth

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 7/4/2020

    Most of us subject ourselves to so many painful mental jabs and they seldom stimulate helpful change. We can be like a frustrated animal trainer repeatedly whipping an animal, without ever helping the animal to understand what behavior is wanted or offering encouragement. Instead, punishing thoughts can be stepping stones to awareness. We can focus on sensing what we're really aspiring to. This is more likely to eventually produce sustainable change that'll serve us better.

  2. How To Resource In The Expansive Perspective

    How To Resource In The Expansive Perspective

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 2 - 3 minutes · 5/8/2020

    In the face of stress you can find ways to be present for what’s happening, rather than being pulled or pushed around by anxious thoughts or fearful feelings. Here are some strategies to return to and maintain expanded awareness.

  3. There are healers and therapists who see climate anxiety as a pathology. Instead, we can see it as an understandable reaction to the magnitude of the environmental problems that surround us. And we can see it as a subset of eco-anxiety: a feeling of worry, nervousness or unease triggered by an awareness of the ecological threats facing the earth due to climate catastrophe. Read on for tips on coping with the anxiety.

  4. Empathic Attuned Listening Practices

    Empathic Attuned Listening Practices

    Kathy Simon

    Video · 15 minutes · 09/30/2021

    Being heard is a core human need. But what if you don't like what the other person is saying: how do you hold onto your awareness of their humanity? Find out in this demonstration from Kathy Simon's course, Connect Across Differences.

  5. NVC Life Hacks 14

    NVC Life Hacks 14

    Purpose of NVC

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Video · 7 minutes · 04/24/2019

    Nonviolent Communication at its core is about the quality of connection that will lead to everybody's needs being met. In this months 'Purpose of NVC' episode, we ask ourselves five questions that help us gain an awareness of where Nonviolent Communication is being used.

  6. Roxy Manning discusses the need to expand our understanding of observations within Nonviolent Communication (NVC). She challenges the idea of objective observation, noting its limitations, and introduces internal observations, citing personal experiences to illustrate their influence on emotions and self-perception. Additionally, she emphasizes systemic awareness as a crucial aspect of observation, highlighting its importance in understanding broader societal issues. Overall, Roxy advocates for a comprehensive approach to observations in NVC, incorporating external, internal, and systemic perspectives to foster inclusivity and empathy.

  7. The Basics of Life-Serving Boundaries

    The Basics of Life-Serving Boundaries

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 11/26/2022

    Setting boundaries takes being firmly grounded in self-respect and clear about what works for you. This means making conscious choices about how you relate to another or behave in a situation. Such clarity allows you to put your attention and energy where you want it to go. Thus we can have care and compassion without taking responsibility for others, nor feeling guilty when we say “no”. This takes awareness, skills, practice, healing and compassion.

  8. When we have privilege, we can have access to resources resulting from legal or social norms related to membership in a group -- independent of any (in)action, awareness of the disparity, the potential benefits to us, or the costs to others. Unhelpful ways of engaging with privilege are: denial/invisibility, guilt/shame, defensiveness, and entitlement. Helpful ways of engaging are: owning privilege, learning about privilege, opening to feedback, and stewarding privilege for benefit of all. To be helpful we need to engage with necessary (rather than unnecessary) discomfort.

  9. How To Ask For Honesty

    How To Ask For Honesty

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 5/26/2023

    Making a decision or boundary that invites someone to be honest about their feelings can be difficult. Remember that lack of authenticity may be due to lack of awareness, inner conflict, or fear of conflict, rather than dishonesty. Offer empathy and reassurance and invite more conversation. Approach with compassion and curiosity to naturally invite more honesty.

  10. Practicing With Anger

    Practicing With Anger

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 5 - 7 minutes · 6/13/2023

    Anger is neither good nor bad. When you don't foresee it or you haven't cultivated a relationship to anger, you may behave from it and hurt yourself and others. There are three reasons anger may rise: primitive anger, resistance, and lack of resources. For practicing with these last two types of anger, we'll look at four practices: cultivate awareness, pause and expand, self-care and planning, and allow grief.

  11. In this insightful snippet from Sarah Peyton, discover how connecting requests can transform conversations into meaningful exchanges. Referred to as the "steering wheel" of NVC dialogue, connecting requests shift the focus from action to connection, creating clarity and understanding.
  12. When It’s Hard For Us To Express Our Needs

    When It’s Hard For Us To Express Our Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/20/2023

    Trainer Tip: Sometimes the expression of our needs can sound like demands or criticism. This can make it harder for people to want to contribute to us. Today, pay attention to how you express your needs. Find ways to release the emotional charge.

  13. The Value of Just Being

    The Value of Just Being

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · N/A · 8/28/2021

    When it comes to how you're achieving your goals, notice what you value. Is achievement coming at others' expense? Where is your sense of worth and validation derived from? Do other people in some way set the bar that you strive to surpass? Without comparing to other people, what does success mean to you? Read on for a related story.

  14. NVC as a Strategy

    NVC as a Strategy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/26/2014

    Trainer Tip: Mary explains how Nonviolent Communication, a process that distinguishes needs from strategies is also itself, a strategy.

  15. Being Honest About Our Anger

    Being Honest About Our Anger

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/23/2014

    Trainer Tip: Mary shares how staying present to our anger and finding the underlying feelings and needs can lead to deeper connection and more satisfying outcomes.

  16. Avoiding “Right Fights”

    Avoiding “Right Fights”

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/5/2014

    Trainer Tip: Ready to start a fight because you're right? Consider another strategy.

  17. Committing to Full Understanding

    Committing to Full Understanding

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/19/2014

    Trainer Tip: There's one sure way to find hidden assumptions, stop and check it out!

  18. Improving Relationships as a Primary Goal

    Improving Relationships as a Primary Goal

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/4/2015

    Trainer Tip: We can improve our relationships by focusing our attention first on connection instead of other stragegies.

  19. Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy

    Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/15/2015

    Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

  20. Connecting to Self

    Connecting to Self

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/1/2015

    Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

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