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  1. Grief and Mourning for the World

    Grief and Mourning for the World

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 5 - 7 minutes · 1/21/2021

    As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give grief the space and support it needs.

  2. Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

    Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 12/26/2019

    Is it dangerous for large numbers of people to be absorbing disturbing news alone? Given the intensity of our times, making choices based on conscious awareness and discernment in relation to current events is essential for our ability to stay engaged, and to also wisely meet our collective challenges with agency and power. Here are five tips for how to help stay sane in relation to the news cycle.

  3. Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those of us who grew up with punitive, adversarial, or avoidant approaches to conflict. Eric offers some tips for approaching conflict.

  4. Hidden Needs

    Hidden Needs

    Miki Kashtan

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "I've been feeling frustrated and angry quite a bit lately over very simple things. Can you help me get to the root of my hidden needs?"

  5. Protective Use of Force

    Protective Use of Force

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/13/2014

    Trainer Tip: Mary explains the NVC principle known as the "protective use of force."

  6. How to Interact with an Angry Practice Group Member

    How to Interact with an Angry Practice Group Member

    Liv Larsson

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: “I would like some suggestions on how to interact with a member of the practice group I started. This individual speaks and acts in a manner I interpret as angry and controlling.”

  7. Enemy Images

    Enemy Images

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/23/2020

    Trainer tip: Judging others can affect our ability to communicate effectively with that person, or enjoy the relationship. Translating the static judgments (enemy images) we have of others into our own and others' feelings and needs can help us move into greater understanding, healing, and relief -- which can foster compassion and connection. Read on for more.

  8. A New Monetary System

    A New Monetary System

    The NVC Pain Exchange (NVCPE)

    Jeff Brown

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 4/18/2023

    There's a danger in using empathy exchange to perpetually recirculate and exchange pain (often by telling and re-telling the same old stories), rather than using it as a catalyst for transformation. It can create and further pain in whatever form: anger, destructiveness, hatred, grief, emotional drama, and violence. It can also reinforce dualistic evaluations of "met" vs "unmet" needs. And it can slow down productivity.

  9. Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!

    Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/29/2010

    Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed how often we back up when we find ourselves in a conflict? Or how much we try to pull away when someone is angry or in emotional pain?

  10. Change Your Response to Conflict — Change Your Life

    Change Your Response to Conflict — Change Your Life

    (4 Session Course)

    Ike Lasater, John Kinyon

    Multi-session Course · 5 hours, 12 minutes · 5/14/2017

    Listen to this introductory 4-session Mediate Your Life telecourse recording to change your response to conflict and change your life.

  11. Stopping

    Stopping

    Practicing Awareness of Thinking

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/13/2020

    Here's a practice for cultivating more awareness of our thinking and choices, when our feelings and thoughts become stimulated.

  12. Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

    Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 37 - 56 minutes · 11/28/2020

    What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much support for the choice as possible, and while mourning not seeing another way to respond to a situation in which vital needs are at stake except to use force". Read on for more.

  13. Bystander Intervention

    Bystander Intervention

    Eddie Zacapa

    Articles · 2 - 3 minutes · 6/16/2023

    Often, people don't help others when others are in danger, whether it is a parent who is abusing a child, a man who is battering his wife, someone sexually harassing another, a bully making fun of someone, or a person who is abusing a pet. However, intervening can save lives. And bring enrichment, peace, safety, care, and justice to the world.

  14. Judging and Feeling Judged

    Judging and Feeling Judged

    Miki Kashtan

    Audio · 16 minutes · 7/28/2010

    In this potent audio, expert trainer Miki Kashtan demonstrates the eye-opening experience of translating judgments into needs. She works with a mother who is stuck in a loop of feeling judged by family members and judging them back.

  15. In this video download, expert parent trainer and author of Parenting From Your Heart, Inbal Kashtan responds to the age-old question: "Why do children do things to annoy parents?"

  16. Join CNVC Certified Trainers Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, for a passionate and intimate exploration of how NVC can support personal and social transformation in the area of power relations and social divisions.

  17. Ronnie Hausheer, an NVC facilitator who volunteers her time for OccupyVoice.info joins NVC Academy co-founder Mark Schultz in a discussion of her work sharing empathy, NVC training and mediation with members of the Occupy Movement.

  18. Giraffe Fighting: Having Your Cake and Eating It Too (2 Session Course)

    Giraffe Fighting: Having Your Cake and Eating It Too (2 Session Course)

    Miki Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 2 hours, 35 minutes · 1/17/2018

    Do you find yourself giving in with growing resentment? Do you avoid conflict and explode later without apparent reason?  Miki Kashtan, a world-renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, invites you to listen to this two-session telecourse recording to re-imagine and fine tune your skills at dealing with disagreements and negotiations.

  19. Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost

    Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/19/2014

    Trainer Tip: The exchange of resources, that is, exchanging money for an item or service, is enhanced and better appreciated when we are connected to its personal value rather than its cost.

  20. Listen to Roxy Manning explore the barriers to speaking authentically as powerful voices for change, and practice these needed conversations about the ongoing violence in the streets of America.

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