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  1. Acknowledging Our Inner Critic

    Acknowledging Our Inner Critic

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/21/2019

    Trainer Tip: Our inner critic judges ourselves and other people; and it is the most likely to get scared when we begin to make a change. It holds wisdom for us if we are willing to listen. When we acknowledge our inner critic and empathize with its need, we gain insights into ourselves and we clear the way for resolution.

  2. The "inner jackal" is probably be better known as the "inner critic", that nagging voice of self-sabotage that undermines our confidence. It's a voice that won't go away in a hurry! So here are our four top tips for getting into positive communication with it.

  3. Self-Empathy

    Self-Empathy

    A Direct Route to Personal Healing

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/24/2017

    Trainer Tip: It is true that we cannot fully understand other people until we understand ourselves. Gain understanding and healing through self-empathy within the Compassionate Communication process.

  4. What Would Be Possible If I Loved Myself?

    What Would Be Possible If I Loved Myself?

    (3 Session Course)

    Kathleen Macferran

    Multi-session Course · 3 - 5 hours · 9/26/2019

    Join Kathleen for a gentle, compassionate exploration and embracing of your true self. Reclaim your self-worth, experience greater freedom when expressing your self and actually celebrate who you are in the world.  Delve into what self-love is and is not – including how to distinguish self-worth from negative cultural labels such as self-obsession and selfishness.

  5. Stop Suffering

    Stop Suffering

    Kelly Bryson

    Audio · 15 minutes · 7/28/2010

    In this inspiring audio, Kelly Bryson, veteran CNVC Certified Trainer and author of many NVC books and articles, explores the importance of setting a clear intention and then clarifies the difference between pain and suffering.

  6. Experience the remarkable healing power of self-empathy, guided by CNVC Certified Trainers, Mary Mackenzie and Raj Gill. In this audio course, the trainers lead participants through a demonstration, and then supplement the learning with discussion and answers to questions.
  7. Living the Fullness of Life

    Living the Fullness of Life

    (9 Session Course)

    Robert Gonzales

    Multi-session Course · 14 - 18 hours · 03/17/2019

    How do we live each and every day from the “living energy of needs” – with the unimpeded fullness of life’s energies flowing through us, regardless of the conflicts or life circumstances we may be experiencing? Through developing deep self-compassion. How can we experience our inner world from a place of utter and total compassion? When we practice compassionate self-care, we create an inner spaciousness that allows our life’s energies to flow. In that spaciousness both healing and inner transformation occurs. Robert’s work explores the interweaving of two co-intentions—to live life from the fullness of the “beauty of needs” and to approach every experience with deep compassion.

  8. Where Do Jackal Voices Come From?

    Where Do Jackal Voices Come From?

    Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 7/30/2012

    The human brain is a conservative organ that comprises different systems with varying degrees of conscious awareness, which evolved in three basic stages of human history (the lizard-squirrel-monkey brain.) In my understanding, we could say, the brain has strong needs for understanding, order, predictability and meaning. In fact, one of its key functions is to process experiences, and predict what the world is like, in order to maximize survival.  CNVC Certified Trainer Stephanie Bachmann Mattei explores the biological basis of our inner jackal voices.

  9. Finding Our True Self

    Finding Our True Self

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/29/2010

    Trainer Tip: Accepting our true feelings, needs and values can lead us to a more compassionate life. Are you being true to yourself?

  10. Are You Living Your True Potential?

    Are You Living Your True Potential?

    Mary Mackenzie

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 12/23/2018

    How can we live up to our true potential, a life filled with relationships and experiences that truly meet our needs? In this article, Mary offers us a way to bring about inner transformation that can lead to seeing ourselves, others and life differently -- for greater agency, empowerment and choice.

  11. Your Inner Leader

    Your Inner Leader

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 3/4/2019

    When building successful relationships, it can be very helpful to see yourself as a collection of different inner parts that developed due to various life experiences. Without empathy and acknowledgment, our inner parts tend to work against us. That's when we're called upon to build and develop our inner leadership...

  12. Eric offers some tips for nurturing and affirming ourselves as a daily practice.

  13. Living In Joy

    Living In Joy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/12/2022

    Trainer Tip: When faced with doing a task that doesn't seem fun try saying to yourself something to the effect of “I do this activity because I value...”. Complete the sentence with related needs, then ask yourself if you still want to complete the task. This can take the demand out of the tasks. Next, choose accordingly. This can teach you about, or give you more access to, true choice in life.

  14. Being Compassion or Doing Compassion

    Being Compassion or Doing Compassion

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/30/2023

    Sometimes I hear people say things like, “I didn’t do Compassionate Communication this week.” Or “I tried Compassionate Communication when I was arguing with my wife last week.” Compassionate Communication is not a thing to do, or to pull out of our bag of tricks once in a while. Compassionate Communication is a consciousness of valuing everyone’s needs and of valuing connection more than being right, winning or protecting ourselves. It is a way of living.

  15. When was the last time you were in a situation with an overwhelming feeling of shame or an unnerving fear of 'doing it wrong'? Sometimes we get sweaty palms or a dry mouth, maybe we freeze on the spot or start an unhelpful internal monologue that makes the situation feel even worse. In this months NVC Life Hack Gesine takes a closer look at her own experience with shame and the fear of doing it wrong.

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