Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices. Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices. Discernment Exercise: Using the "Four Choices" for Self-EmpathyOnce each day, write down a message you found difficult to hear...Imagine receiving the message and then internally responding with each of these choices:1. Judgmental (Jackal) Ears OutVoice of AngerBlame or criticize the other person"It's your fault." "You are _________." "You should ______." Write how you might talk to yourself with this choice.Consider what needs may be met with this choice.Consider what needs may be unmet with this choice.2. Judgmental (Jackal) Ears InVoice of Guilt, Shame and DepressionBlame or criticize yourself"It's my fault.""I am __________." "I should ______." Write how you might talk to yourself with this choice.Consider what needs may be met with this choice.Consider what needs may be unmet with this choice.3. Generative (Giraffe) Ears InVoice of Self-compassionConnect to your internal experience of feelings and needs"I'm feeling_______, because I need/value______." Write how you might talk to yourself with this choice.Consider what needs may be met with this choice.Consider what needs may be unmet with this choice.4. Generative (Giraffe) Ears OutVoice of EmpathyConnect to the feelings and needs of the other person"So, ____________ is important to you..." Write how you might talk to yourself with this choice.Consider what needs may be met with this choice.Consider what needs may be unmet with this choice.From this place of consideration and self-connection, imagine receiving the difficult message, then choose how you would like to respond.© 2010 peaceworks, Jim and Jori Manske Keywords: consciousness core beliefs exercises/practices feelings honesty observation presence self empathy strategies intention personal growth self compassion self connection disagreement is progress authenticity discernment Jim and Jori Manske Jim Manske Jori Manske