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Jim Manske demonstrates using NVC and self-connection to create sincere, healing apologies.

Sometimes when we regard needs as something that could be met or unmet by another person or by a situation we unconsciously hold the belief that our needs should be met. Or we end up holding blame or implying wrongdoing. People are more likely to resist a request made from this stance. Instead, here are practices to increasingly losen any remaining attachment or demand energy -- and open our hearts to ourselves and others while we make requests.

Sitting with not knowing is an NVC skill because its the opposite of reactivity. In our haste to find relief from the discomfort of not knowing, we often become defensive, jump to conclusions, and blame and criticize others. Sitting with not knowing requires us to suspend our distrust, tolerate fear and uncertainty - creating space within us. NVC provides a way forward to enter into a space of wonder, possibility, and creativity.

So often we're habituated to associate a “why” question with being reproached, blamed or shamed – and so defensiveness arises. However, in order to maintain a flow of understanding and collaboration, we need to hear and say the “why” while finding other ways to ask for it. Here we look at how to ask questions that bring each of us vital information that can open up discovery and learning, for our mutual benefit.

Veteran Trainer Sylvia Haskvitz reviews the key distinctions/differentiations in NVC.

Sylvia teaches emotion management, connecting feelings to needs, and "Screaming in Giraffe."

Raj Gil offers tools and dialogue to help you respond to anger with awareness & care in the moment.

Miki speaks to peace activists about connecting with the life vision in those who stimulate pain.

Miki Kashtan shows how translating judgments into needs transforms family conflict and connection.

Inbal Kashtan answers the age-old question: Why do children do things to annoy parents?