Free NVC Learning Resources

Amidst the Israel/Palestine war we see polarizing media portrayals and the battle for public opinion. Read how one person shares his deep, personal connections to the Israel/Palestine conflict, expresses the trauma and viewpoints of both Palestinian and Israeli experiences -- in a way that aims to transcend polarizations, hold compassion, and understand the complexity on both sides. Despite the immense challenge that defies easy resolution, he holds hope, noting historical reconciliations such as the ones between Germans and Jews.

How do you solve a conflict? By not trying to solve it! Yoram suggests building your conflict resolution muscles by practicing connecting to the needs behind the conflict instead.

So many of us have been taught to solve conflicts by what is “fair.” However, Miki Kashtan states that fairness is a separating concept. In this video, she describes how when we do not have the conditions to care for all needs involved, when we live within separation, fairness is second best.

What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for an important conversation. Read on for more on this, plus four accompanying practices.

Sophie Docker shares how, through dialogue, we can start developing more consciousness, skills, and capacity for embracing conflict as a way to move beyond separateness and restore our interdependence. The way we engage with conflict can support us in finding our way to interdependence.

Mary Mackenzie dives into the heart of change with an explanation of the 3 Phases of Transition. We have all experienced changes in our families, communities, work, and the world. How is it impacting you? How are you coping? Learn about the 3 Phases of Transition: the ending, the neutral zone, and the new beginning— and how this process can support you in navigating change.

Roxy Manning shares some strategies to support a child's natural curiosity when asking questions about physical differences using NVC skills.

Overriding our individual or collective capacities can sustain oppressive systems. Honoring limits better aligns with life and is more likely to dismantle patriarchal culture. Accepting, respecting and staying within capacity instead of constantly pushing beyond limits allows for increased individual and collective capacity -- this can lead to more sustainable agreements and a shift towards a more interdependent, gifting paradigm.

The purpose of setting boundaries is to prevent harm to yourself and others. In this video, Yvette Erasmus describes how and why exquisite self-care requires exquisite boundaries.

Resonant language is language that takes us out of the static brain space and into the brain’s fluid space. In this video, Sarah describes the basics of resonant language and how, when you start to move into the fluid space of the right brain hemisphere, everything starts to change.