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Ask the Trainer: "Fairness" isn't on the needs list. What needs might be underneath it?

Ask the Trainer: Exploring how unconscious motivations influence the needs we identify and express.

Miki Kashtan reveals how choice is always available, no matter the situation or circumstances.

Exploring ways to stay compassionate and connected when someone seems angry or controlling.

Explore what blocks us from speaking truth and how honesty builds trust and growth.

Kelly Bryson explores courageous honesty and how truth shared openly deepens connection.

Exploring how stories and unmet needs each influence the cause of our feelings in NVC.

Listen to this audio to learn the value of focusing on needs in an NVC model, either for the first time or as a refresher course. Living from a needs-consciousness creates abundance, clarity and choice. Using three examples from participants, Mary guides the group towards identifying and then connecting with the needs of both parties involved in each situation. It becomes clear very quickly that people choose different ways to support their needs; and many times they have the same needs in a given situation. When we understand this, we are able to create peace in our relationships and negotiations.

“Everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need,” says CNVC Certified Trainer Mary Mackenzie. This simple statement is a foundational understanding in Nonviolent Communication; once you gain skills at living in a “needs-consciousness” you will literally change your life and your perception of the world, and improve all of your relationships.

In this inspiring interview, Wes Taylor relays a story of how Nonviolent Communication is successfully used in law enforcement, and some of his challenges and joys in infusing Nonviolent Communication into a Maryland hospital culture.

Ask the Trainer: "In trainings I say our jackals are thoughts and now I've come to wonder if all thoughts are jackals...?"

Listen to this newly remastered audio with seasoned Life Coach and CNVC Certified Trainers Martha Lasley and Dian Killian, to explore how you can "be the change" in your life, to live fully in integrity with your values in your work, community, faith and social action groups.

 Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can therefore greatly support our capacity for discovering and articulating what specifically we want from the other person that we believe may contribute to connection.

Explore Self-Empathy with a unique four-step process ending in gratitude.

The wisdom which NVC is based on is as old as humanity itself. This telecourse recording draws insights from NVC’s elder siblings of Taoism, Buddhism and indigenous culture to offer new ways of approaching common NVC ‘stuck’ places.

Learn to foster trust, peace, and cooperation in your family using Nonviolent Communication.

Explore NVC’s core elements alongside universal spiritual principles.

Strengthen empathy, goodwill, and authenticity at home, meeting life's challenges with grace.

Use NVC and mediation tools to transform conflict into authentic connection.

Can you give me advice on what to do when people won't talk to me? I find it very difficult to discover what their needs are that aren't being met! Also, how can I be effective with people who don't actually want to think about why they're being the way they are?