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  1. However indirectly expressed, any judgement or criticism is about the person's own thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests.This awareness can help you take people's comments less personally, and give you options: silent self-empathy, standing in your truth, contact and curiosity, and honest expression.

  2. NVC Life Hacks 14

    NVC Life Hacks 14

    Purpose of NVC

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Video · 7 minutes · 04/24/2019

    Nonviolent Communication at its core is about the quality of connection that will lead to everybody's needs being met. In this months 'Purpose of NVC' episode, we ask ourselves five questions that help us gain an awareness of where Nonviolent Communication is being used.

  3. Somatic-Based Empathy

    Somatic-Based Empathy

    Eric Bowers

    Practice Exercises · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/14/2021

    Use this interactive empathy exercise to track the relationship and shifting of body sensations, feelings and needs as you note them out loud.

  4. What Is NVC? Approaches to NVC

    What Is NVC? Approaches to NVC

    Inbal Kashtan, Miki Kashtan

    Learning Tools · 2 - 3 minutes · 12/1/2021

    Here's a table outlining eight ideas people have regarding what NVC "is". It provides columns for the principle, related needs and strategies of the NVC approach. You can add to the table your own ideas for NVC approaches. Included are five sets of reflection questions to explore what speaks to you, what would expand your range of options, what brings up discomfort, and more.
  5. Keys To Building Trust After Broken Agreements

    Keys To Building Trust After Broken Agreements

    Elia Paz

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 1/1/2022

    Building trust involves each person taking responsibility for what they want by identifying their needs, and making specific and doable requests that open a negotiation. Identify in what contexts you already have trust, what you want to be able to trust, and how you may be blocking or cultivating that trust. Making requests for specific actions of what to do differently can also help.

  6. Two Basics That Support Conflict Resolution

    Two Basics That Support Conflict Resolution

    Elia Paz

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 3/8/2022

    Connecting with self and other is key to care and creativity. Before dialogue connect with your intention and needs for being with grief, fear or pain, and empathy. Dialogue when you're both rested, fed, and have spaciousness. Start by expressing care and desire to find mutually satisfying solutions. To deepen connection you may repeat what you hear and ask the other person to do the same.

  7. How To Interrupt Gossip

    How To Interrupt Gossip

    Elia Paz

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 05/28/2022

    Reflect on a time when you were either expressing gossip or participating passively. What feelings and needs were up for you at the time? How might you have interrupted the gossip with connection? When interrupting gossip it can take a few rounds of empathy and honest expression to bridge understanding, and create a space in which mutual care and curiosity arises. Read on for an example.

  8. Somatic Practices for Embodying NVC

    Somatic Practices for Embodying NVC

    David Weinstock

    Video · 9 minutes · 08/03/2022

    How do you build new learning paths and change old practices? Listen as David presents the elements of somatic practice‚ including those that build new learning paths‚ and discover where that learning "sweet spot" is!

  9. Blame, Responsibility, And Care

    Blame, Responsibility, And Care

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 11 - 16 minutes · 10/9/2022

    One NVC principle is "stimulus vs cause" - one may be the stimulus but never the cause of another's feelings. When we're upset this principle can help us express pain without blame. However, when others are upset it's easy to slip into blaming them using this principle. Instead, we can hear their pain with care and heartfelt mourning - without guilt nor defensiveness, and whether or not we agree. All this is important if we're sincerely applying compassion. Read on for more.

  10. Patterns That Perpetuate Conflict - Part 1 of 2

    Patterns That Perpetuate Conflict - Part 1 of 2

    Bob Wentworth

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 11/20/2022

    To resolve conflict, information of what's important to each party, plus corrections, needs to be included and built upon. Here we explore nine patterns of ongoing conflict, including diagnosis; assuming understanding; refuting; unhelpful communication mediums; over focus on intent over effect; and “hit-and-run” engagement. This is part one of a two part series.

  11. Safe Spaces and Confidentiality Agreements

    Safe Spaces and Confidentiality Agreements

    Roxy Manning

    Video · 4 minutes 7 seconds · 02/16/2023

    Certified CNVC trainer Roxy Manning, Phd, answers a question: how to create a safe space for a first time group working on power and privileges ?

  12. A Path For Responding To Tragic Decisions

    A Path For Responding To Tragic Decisions

    Elia Paz

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 2/7/2023

    Hearing actions that lead to living beings' harm, you may notice that some people believe that the needs of some must come at the cost of others. This view arises from fear and an economic system meant to promote and feed off false scarcity. When struggling with this, grieve, receive support, and notice your feelings show you certain values matter to you. From this sense of purpose you can find where you can be of most service.

  13. Making Your Empathy Guesses More Natural

    Making Your Empathy Guesses More Natural

    Mary Mackenzie

    Video · 3 minutes · 09/25/2023

    Join Mary Mackenzie, Certified NVC trainer, as she offers ways to incorporate NVC empathy guesses, feelings and needs into everyday conversations. This approach is geared towards adding deeper connection to the natural flow of conversations. The technique has become known as Street Giraffe.

  14. About Self-Requests

    About Self-Requests

    Yoram Mosenzon

    Video · 4 minutes · 10/13/2023

    Listen to Yoram Mosenzan discuss requests. He asserts that we can make requests of others and that we are making requests of ourselves throughout the day. The thing that has the biggest impact is how I make requests of myself.

  15. Life-Serving Boundaries

    Life-Serving Boundaries

    Elia Paz

    Video · 6 minutes · 9/30/2023

    Join Elia Lowe-Charde as she shares a story that beautifully illustrates how boundaries are akin to consciously directing our precious energy. She artfully expands upon this concept by highlighting that life-serving boundaries embody the wisdom of discernment.

  16. From Self-Connection to Self-Expression

    From Self-Connection to Self-Expression

    Yoram Mosenzon

    Video · 12 minutes · 11/18/2023

    Yoram Mosenzon discusses judgmental dialogue and its hidden aim to meet needs. This often creates distance instead of fostering connection. Yoram introduces a self-connection exercise to improve the chances of dialogue becoming more enriching and life-serving.

  17. Mary Mackenzie shares how Marshall Rosenberg's Four D's of Disconnection live in her. Join Mary and learn how you can reframe the 4 D's to enhance connection.

  18. Empathy – Not Empathy

    Empathy – Not Empathy

    Elia Paz

    Learning Tools · ·

    This handout defines and contrasts "empathy" alongside "responses may meet needs, but are not empathy" (such as advice, correcting, consoling, etc).

  19. The Facilitator's Role

    The Facilitator's Role

    Mary Mackenzie

    Video · 12 minutes · 02/25/2025

    Listen in as Mary deftly blows the role of facilitator wide open in this excerpt from her very popular 2021 course, Facilitate NVC Groups with Joy and Confidence. She also covers a variety of useful tips such as what to do if you feel lost or confused, how to trust your gut, and ideas around utilizing empathy for yourself!

     
  20. The Four D's of Disconnection

    The Four D's of Disconnection

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Learning Tools · 5 -7 minutes · 10/12/2014

    Learn to recognize four forms of thinking and speaking that are likely to lead to disconnection.
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