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Build the capacity to choose vulnerability, deepen connection, and live with authenticity.

Kelly Bryson shows how clear intention and awareness transform pain into growth.

A 1999 discussion with youth on understanding and working with anger.

Can you give me advice on what to do when people won't talk to me? I find it very difficult to discover what their needs are that aren't being met! Also, how can I be effective with people who don't actually want to think about why they're being the way they are?

NVC Mingle is a fun group exercise to practice NVC principles and create quick connections with others.

Inbal answers a parent's question about praise and offers a perspective on how praise translates into the NVC framework.

Bring your inquisitive mind and open heart to explore principles that ground the practice of NVC.

Trainer Tip: Taking time to mourn our regrets and unmet needs can lead to a deeper self-connection and feelings of peace.

Trainer Tip: Sometimes the best way to get our need me is to first connect with the needs of another.

Trainer Tip: There are many ways to meet a need. Open to new possibilities.

Trainer Tip: The change you're looking for begins with a single step.

How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are projecting.

Trainer Tip: Where do you focus most of your life? Are there areas that you could reassess? Are you happy? Engage a new paradigm shift in your life.

Shift your view of leadership and learn to respond with clarity, power and purpose in daily life.

Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.

Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.

Trainer Tip: Only after we connect to our unmet need can we make sound decisions that will transform our experience. For example, if you feel bored, connect to your unmet needs (eg. need for understanding the relevance, etc) and then look for strategies that will meet them (eg. ask the speaker how this topic relates to our lives).

Gain practical tools to lead from any seat, engage fear with clarity and step into everyday power.

Shift your mindset and learn to influence workplace culture with clarity and conscious choice.

Step into leadership and connection by taking full responsibility while honoring all needs.