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Even in a conflict, you can offer emotional safety without being enmeshed -- and you can do this without sliding into strategies to gain power over another. You can prioritize connection, express your intention, make space for mutuality, honestly reveal what you care about and propose a way forward. This means caring for your needs regardless of their response -- and mourning if their response isn't what you want. Read on for more.

In relationships, the desire for space can conflict with the need for intimacy. This conflict arises from different strategies to meet similar needs. By identifying specific needs behind the request for space and understanding the other person’s needs for closeness, both of you can negotiate and collaborate. Repeated conflicts may indicate the need for personal healing, which you’ll need to address individually.

Ask the Trainer: Dealing with judgments about you when the speaker's true unmet need is hidden.

Penny Wassman: A beginning workshop exercise to build connection after logistics/check-in.

This recording helps you uncover what prevents you from making requests without fear. Includes daily practices.

Ask the Trainer: Can NVC transform group conflict? Trainer shares stories and answers the question.

Ask the Trainer: Is a confidentiality agreement typically used in NVC practice groups?

Ask the Trainer: Feeling frustrated and angry over simple things? Find the root of your hidden needs.

Ask the Trainer: If the unconscious is vast, can I depend on my stated needs being the true motivation?

Ask the Trainer: "In trainings I say our jackals are thoughts and now I've come to wonder if all thoughts are jackals...?"