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his own examples and those put forth by participants, Wes touches on the following key differentiations of NVC: Needs vs. strategies Protective use of force vs. punitive use of force Requests vs. demands Keywords: consciousness demands feelings needs observation protective use of force requests strategies connection inspiration personal growth OFNR universal human needs Wes Taylor
NVC LIfe Hacks 11

request: when we say something, we're usually expecting something else — perhaps something subtle — in return. Let's look at how to make requests clearer and more do-able, avoiding the pitfall of demands. Keywords: trainer tips requests demands doable request Shantigarbha Warren
Expressing and Receiving No in NVC Consciousness

“yes” to give someone else. Listen as John works with participants' real life situations, demonstrating how to give and receive a "no" from a consciousness of interpersonal connection. Keywords: demands empathy feelings needs presence requests self empathy compassion self compassion conflict resolution relationships authenticity vulnerability enemy images intensity triggers John Kinyon
The Four D's of Disconnection

You are lazy and only care about yourself! I feel sad and frustrated because I have a need to be seen as a caring person. Are you feeling frustrated because you value cooperation? Keywords: demands exercises/practices requests blame jackal talk choice diagnosis deserve disconnection Introduction to NVC learning tool Jim Manske Jori Manske ©2008 peaceworks jim and jori manske radicalcompassion.com
Intrinsic Need for Respect

that represents the quality of a life-serving intrinsic need Respect that requires bolstering from outside oneself that masquerades as a demand, yet is perceived as an extrinsic need Keywords: demands empathy feelings needs connection inspiration personal growth relationships Susan Skye
Setting Loving Boundaries

This session touches on concepts like narcissism, codependence, and shame while providing a nonviolent reframing of those dynamics. This will help you understand the differences between demands, ultimatums, limits, boundaries, and agreements as you learn how to talk about your internal boundaries before they become painful issues in your relationships. Keywords: NVC Spirit boundary limits demand...
Unpacking OFNR - Requests

Many believe it's only a true NVC request when we can ask for what we need without urgency or insistence. But what if we're the target of oppression and hate in a world with systemic inequality? Is it still nonviolence to abdicate power by allowing the person enacting harm to be the one to decide whether harm continues? The intensity of the need, degree of harm, and how chronically unmet the...
Making Requests Count

Trainer Tip There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And, if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost. —Martha Graham The first three components of the Nonviolent Communication process clarify our observations, feelings,...
Living In Joy

Trainer Tip To be successful, the first thing to do is fall in love with your work. —Sister Mary Lauretta We all have daily activities that don’t seem fun. Mine are cooking, lighting a fire, and cleaning the cat box. For years I grumbled about these things and I could find no joy in them at all, until I started to connect to the needs I was trying to meet with each activity. Each morning for...
Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests (OFNR) Communication Components

Observation vs. Evaluation/Judgment Observation is awareness of what we perceive with our senses – sight, sound, touch, taste, smell — and also of our thoughts (images, words, concepts, evaluations). In language, we can describe purely what we are observing (i.e. words we hear, actions we see from our subjective frame of reference) separate from words that evaluate (e.g. liking or disliking,...