In this book excerpt, Kathleen and Jared offer a path to reach deeper clarity, distinguishing between response and reaction. In this excerpt from their book, CHOICE: A field guide for navigating the polarization of our world and living interdependently, Kathleen and Jared offer a path to reach deeper clarity, distinguishing between response and reaction. Response Connection to values I am acutely aware that we both operate from unique perspectives in relation to our values, so I choose my strategies accordingly. I take into consideration what I imagine is important to both of us, and I attend to the needs that are visible to me. In the moment between what was said or done and my reply, I experience freedom which arises from self-awareness. Reaction Connection to impulse I am acutely aware of the urgency I am experiencing in our relationship, so I implement the strategies of relief I am most practiced in. I do what I am capable of doing in the moment even if I am aware that other needs of mine may remain unattended. I protect what matters most to me with well-rehearsed habits because they give me a sense of agency and power. This guide is meant to fine-tune and assist how you read your inner compass, rather than being a “how to” teaching. This tip a an exerpt from Kathleen and Jared's book, CHOICE: A field guide for navigating the polarization of our world and living interdependently. key differentiations response reaction impulse values strategies Kathleen Macferran Jared Finkelstein